Both Holy and Loving


I was a counselor at a Christian one summer camp during college.  When my cabin of high school girls gathered after the evening rally and I asked them what “holy”meant. We had just finished singing about how holy God was and it occurred to me they might not understand what they had so passionately been declaring.  My question was met with blank stares.  I was right, they didn’t know, and I realized it was my job to explain to them something I barely understood myself.    15 years later I think I’ve got it narrowed down a little bit…

The essence of holiness is being separate from something else.

Separated by kind. God is holy. Though he is intimately involved in creation he exists independently of it and is distinct from it. He is holy, separated, because he is of a different kind than we are.

Separated from sin (moral purity). God is also holy in the sense that he is completely separate from sin.   He has not sinned, he will not sin, he does what is right and is what is right.

Separated into chosen/unchosen for a purpose.  Israel was a holy nation because they were chosen, set apart, separated from other nations. Items used in temple worship were holy because they were set apart for only sacred (religious) use. With this usage, the intent of the separation (for religious purposes) carries the implication of sacredness.


The English word holy  most commonly come from the the Hebrew root קֹ֫דֶשׁ  (qodesh) and the Greek root ἅγιος (hagios).  There are other Greek and Hebrew words that are translated as holy, but these are the most common.  At the core of both of these words is the idea of separateness or apart-ness.  Alternate translations into English include words like hallowed, sanctified, and dedicated.  When the holy is repeated it is for emphasis; instead of saying, “very holy” the author might say “holy holy” or “holy of holies.”  When holy is repeated three times (as in Isaiah 6:3) it is means, basically, “the holiest thing ever.”  Only God is holy, holy, holy.

Christians are Holy

As Christians we are called holy and told to grow in holiness.

We are holy because we have been chosen to be God’s people, his children. 2 Peter 1:9 says, “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.”   We are set apart with a purpose of declaring his praises.

We are also holy because Jesus has washed away our sins making us legally sinless or pure (more on that when we get to salvation and atonement).

We are called holy, and told to act holy.  But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do;  for it is written: ‘Be holy, because I am holy.'” (1 Peter 1: 15-16). We are holy people and we should act holy.

We are separated from the world to God.  We are separated from sin to right-living.

Holiness and Love

God is love.  God is holy.  These things, love and holiness, are not really that different from each other when you understand that sin is primarily failing to love God or love others well. Love isn’t about following rules, it’s about priorities.

When asked what the greatest commandment was, Jesus famously replied,‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment.  And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”   He says that every law and every rule points us to loving God and loving others.

His admonishments weren’t about avoiding sin, they were about loving without reserve.  Sin, most often, isn’t about breaking rules but about failing to love.  Gossip is sin because it’s disrespectful and unloving; it does not take into consideration the feelings of the person being talked about.  Watching porn is sinful because it’s failing to treat others as children of God, made in his image, with dignity, potential brothers and sisters in Christ. When you use others for your sexual arousal, you are not loving them.  When you are loving them, when you see them as human beings, want the best for them, and to pray for them, you’re less likely to find the satisfaction that you’re looking for when you view porn. 

Holiness is less about avoiding sin or becoming moral and more about letting  the Holy Spirit so fill you with love that it oozes out of your pores and into every interaction you have with every single person in every moment of every day.

When you’re focusing on sinning less, you’re focusing on sin more often.  
When you’re focusing on loving more, you’ll sin less.  

Our God is both holy and loving.  Let him love you.  Be rooted and grounded in his love.  Let his love be your firm foundation.  (This is an excellent devotional to help you go deeper in delighting yourself in his love).  With intimate knowledge of and experience of his love you’ll long to love him and others the same way.  When you are rooted in love you will long for holiness because you will want to love others with the love you’ve experienced.

Our God is both holy and loving and we are called to be increasingly more holy and loving. The two are so intertwined that you cannot be one without the other.

Take some time this week exploring God’s holiness and his love; allow yourself to experience this love. Then explore what it means to love and be holy. An easy place to start is simply be looking up these words and reading the verses that contain these words (and surrounding context).  So, for example, go to and search holy. After you’ve read all those verses, search for holiness,  then holy ones.  Share what you learn about God and about yourself with someone else this week. holy-and-loving


We are called saints (or holy ones, depending on your translation) several times in the New Testament (1 Romans 1:7, Corinthians 1:12, 2 Corinthians 1:1, Ephesians 1:1, etc.).

Too much separation from the world can lead to Christian ghettos.   In order to avoid being defiled by the world, Wesleyans and other holiness denominations, have, at times, erred on the side of seclusion.  We put our colleges in the middle of nowhere so our students would be less effected by the evil around them, we hang out at church with people who are like us, we don’t go to dances or movies, and strive to avoid sin.  But holiness isn’t just about avoiding sin, it’s about loving fully.

The first thing called holy in the Bible is the 7th day, during creation (Genesis 2:3).  He called the 7th day the Sabbath, or day of rest, because it was separate from the other days.  On the other six days, God worked.  On this day, God rests.  It is a holy day.

Songs about Love & Holiness

The first time I heard this song was when I worked at the Portland Rescue Mission.  One of the staff had heard it and shared with the residents who were standing nearby.  I think this might have been the only song we heard for at least the next week.  So many of the women, the staff included, needed to be reminded and renewed with the truth that God’s love for us is not an analytical choice but a passionate, exuberant love.

Here’s the same song with a different flavor:

One Living and True God

I am the Lord, and there is no other; apart from me there is no God.” (Is 45:5)

For this is what the Lord says— he who created the heavens, he is Godhe who fashioned and made the earth, he founded it…he says:“I am the Lordand there is no other.”
(Is 45:18, emphasis mine)

If you were to read Isaiah 45  out loud with all the passion that God felt when hee it (instead of the boring way we often read the Bible), I think anyone who was listening to you would sit down, shut up, and think about their choices.

God is emphatically declaring that he is the only real god.  Other spiritual beings exist but they are in a different class of beings; he is far superior to them.  He is pre-existent, self-existent (he existed before everything else and exists of his own power).  All other beings came into existence when he created them, they continue to exist by his power.  He is unique.  He alone is worthy of the respect, honor, and worship that we, his creation, have to give.  He is the one true God.

You should definitely take a moment and read the whole chapter here. It might take you a few verses to get into it, but try reading it (out loud) with all the passion and gusto that the God who created the universe might have if he was trying to very clearly get his point across.  It’ll be fun (unless you’re reading this in a coffee shop or public transit, then it might be a little creepy, or maybe fun, I guess it depends on your personality).

Monotheism, the belief that there is one God, is a cornerstone of the Christian faith and a consistent message throughout the Bible. Some religions are atheistic (do not believe in any gods), others polytheistic (believe in many gods), and a few are monotheistic like us (Judaism and Islam, for example). Writing this from a North American context feels funny because, while there is growing religious diversity in the United States, our cultural default is that if you believe in any god, you believe in one God so saying that there is only one true God feels like I’m stating something as obvious as, “The sun provides warmth to the earth,” or “the sky is blue.”   But belief in one true God is not obvious to the majority of the people we share the earth with and there are some significant implications to belief in one God.

Implications of Christian Monotheism:

We believe there is a God (as opposed to no God).  More than that, we believe this God rewards those who seek him.  “…because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.” (Hebrews 11:6).

We believe this God has no equal.  There is no yin to his yang or yang to his yin.  He is more powerful than anything he created.  God’s enemies are not on a level playing field with him and we do not need to worry that they will conquer him (or us).

We believe this unequaled God is the only one worthy of our worship.  He is worthy of the worship we declare with our words and the worship we demonstrate by the way we live our lives.

We believe all other gods are false gods.  These false gods, often represented in biblical times by statues and idols, are dangerous distractions from the one true God.  Conversely, anything that is a distraction from our relationship may become, for us, an idol or false god.  Often these distractions are good things that become bad when they are honored too highly. My biggest distraction tends to be ministry; I have friends who get distracted by relationships, their kids’ sports, the accumulation of wealth, security, food.  Anything can become a false god.

The one true God’s unique status is why we should worship him but his character is what will make us want to worship him. Toward the end of Isaiah 45, we see a God who is right and does right, a God who reaches out to save those who are lost and perishing, a God who does not leave us in the filth we create for ourselves, a God of love who sacrifices to be with us.  This is the one, living and true God that we will continue to explore next week.

“…And there is no God apart from me, a righteous God and a Savior; there is none but me.”
(Is 45:21)


BONUS MATERIAL: because there is so much stuff that I want to share but doesn’t fit in the post…


WORD MATH (or combining Greek words to make fancy sounding theological words)

poly= many
a= not
-ism=indicates a belief in…
-ist indicates one who believes in…

mono + theos + ism = Monotheism or belief in one God
poly + theos + ism = polytheism or the belief in many gods
a+gnosis = agnostic or don’t know
a+theos+ ism = atheism or belief in no God
heno+theos+ism= henotheism or belief that one of the many gods should be worshiped above the other gods

To Capitalize or not to capitalize?

We capitalize “God” when we are talking about the one true God and leave it lowercase when we are talking about false gods or many gods.  At least in English.  I’d be interested in learning how other languages, especially languages that are part of largely polytheistic or atheistic cultures, handle capitalization.

The Shema

The shema refers to the statement in Deuteronomy 6:4 “Hear, O Israel, the Lord your God, the Lord is one…” a clear declaration of the monotheistic nature of the God.  It tends to be the go-to verse for indicating monotheism in the Old Testament.

Other implications of Christian Monotheism:

Christians should have some level of unity.  This doesn’t mean we all need to believe exactly the same things or act the same ways but it means that we are willing to work together on the same team. Ephesians 4:3 says,  “Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to one hope when you were called; one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.”  John Wesley is famous for saying, “In essentials, unity; in non-essentials, liberty; and in all things, charity.”

I have lots of opinions about our current political situation in the United States and when I get frustrated with the people who are wrong (a.k.a. the people who disagree with me) I need to step back and remember that we’re on the same team.  This doesn’t mean I don’t speak up or try to win them over but it does mean that I do it while viewing them as a teammate and not as an enemy.

Acknowledging  the truth that there is one God is a good place to start but it is not a good place to end. James 2:19 says, “You believe that there is one God. Good! Even the demons believe that—and shudder.” Mere assent to truth isn’t sufficient; what you believe about this one God has to change your life. If you believe this one true living God is the God that he reveals himself to be in the Bible you’ll seek justice and care for widows, orphans, and aliens; you’ll act in humility toward those who don’t deserve it; you’ll be transformed into the image of Christ by the power of the Holy Spirit.



against the uncritical absorption of theology


It is good to question what you believe.

It might freak your friends out.  It might freak your pastor out.  It might freak you out.  But questioning what you believe is a good and necessary part of a maturing faith.  A lot of our theology is absorbed uncritically from the world around us and not all of it is good.

The process of questioning our theology can be disconcerting because we don’t just question the things that we ultimately determine are bad or false; we also question the the things that we ultimately determine are good and true.  It’s the questioning (doubting) process that allows us to figure out what is good and what is bad. It’s how we determine what we carry forward with confidence and what we need to leave behind.

The refining process includes exploring what we believe along with why we believe it and where it comes from.  Today we’re looking at the where, in coming weeks we’ll explore the what and why.

Wesleyans acknowledge that theology comes from many sources; our favorites are the Bible, tradition, reason, and experience. These four sources make up the “Wesleyan Quadrialteral.”  Wesleyans aren’t the only people that acknowledge these sources but somehow we won the naming rights.

The Bible is listed first because the Bible always wins. We believe that the Bible is the Word of God.  In its pages God reveals who he is, who we are, and his plan for creation and redemption.  It contains the truth that he wanted to make sure everyone had access to. The truth contained in its pages applies to all people, everywhere, for all time.  God speaks outside of the Bible (in nature, through the Holy Spirit, in dreams and visions, and other ways) but he will not contradict what he has already said in the Bible.  The Bible is the final authority for our theology.

It would be nice if you could just equate your theology with whatever the Bible says, but it isn’t that simple.  Anytime you read anything, including the Bible, you interpret it.  And it’s likely that you’ll interpret it differently than the person sitting next to you, because you are  both viewing it through your own unique lenses.  Your lens is shaped by your age, gender, culture, experiences, language, etc.  Because the Bible is relatively clear most of the time, but is definitely able to be interpreted a variety of ways, we use the other sources–tradition, reason, and experience–to shape our theology in a way that (we hope) is inline with what God intended.

Tradition can be very helpful…most of the time. It’s unlikely that you’ll discover something in the Bible that hasn’t already be researched, discussed and debated by others of the last two thousand years of Christianity.  There are a lot of things that the Church has ruled as heresy*…and a few things it’s reversed its stance on over time.  But this general consensus on core topics over hundreds and thousands of years is helpful for informing our theology.

Reason is using our brain to process what we read in the Bible, what we hear from tradition, and what we experience. It’s reason that tells us that God doesn’t really have wings and he’s not really a bird despite the many references in Psalms that talk about God protecting us with his wings because reason tells us that the Psalms are poetry and should be interpreted as poetry, not like a narrative, or science book, or news story.   John Wesley studied philosophy and science along with other disciplines that helped shape his theology and inform his faith.  When studying theology both our heads and our hearts are important.

Our theology is shaped and informed by our experience.  It’s not uncommon for people to believe that God is gracious and compassionate when they experience grace and compassion from those who bear his name.  It’s also not uncommon for people to believe that God is angry and judgmental when the are attacked and judged by Christians.  Experience, of course, is incredibly subjective and needs to be submitted to the Bible but we shouldn’t be afraid to explore our experience and allow it to shape our theology.  It is good to know that God is love because we read it in the Bible.  It is better to know God is love because we have felt his touch and experienced his unconditional love and grace.

Our experience can shape our theology when something tragic happens that our belief system isn’t prepared for.  A divorce, death, or diagnosis can shake us to our core and cause us to question God’s goodness, his power, or his very existence.

There’s a thing in the Bible called “the barren woman motif.” Infertility is a challenge  that comes up over and over again throughout the Old and New Testaments. Anytime a barren woman shows up you know God is about to do something amazing; I can’t think of a barren woman we meet in the Bible who doesn’t eventually become a mother.  For those of us who have struggled with infertility and loss, in any of its forms, this motif is not merely an academic category, it is an emotionally engaging reality.  Sarah who is barren well into her 90’s gives birth to Isaac, the son of promise through whom the covenant God made with Abraham passes.  When Hannah is barren and cries out to God, he hears her and gives her a son who will faithfully lead Israel in their transition to monarchy.  Elizabeth is barren until she receives word that her son will be the one who prepares the way for the Messiah.  It is clear in all of these stories that God cared about these women, not just their wombs or their children.  When I read their stories, I experience both longing and joy with these women and I am deeply moved by a God who is involved in the intimate details of our lives, including our ability to become pregnant and carry a child to term.  I haven’t heard a lot of men hone in on the depth of the impact of infertility and how God relates to it.  I think this is, in part, because their experience doesn’t cause them to linger on these topics. It’s not good or bad, it’s just the way it is.  My experience with infertility causes me to view these passages and, as a result, God differently than I would otherwise. Our experiences shape our theology.

The Bible, tradition, reason, experience.  Four sources of theology, but not equally authoritative sources of theology.  When there is a clash between the Bible and tradition, reason, or experience, the Bible always wins.

As you become more aware of what you believe and ask more questions about why you believe it, also take the time to ask, “Where did I pick this up?”  Begin to figure out where your theology is shaped by the Bible, tradition, reason, and experience and ask yourself which source(s) are most important to you.

When I’m writing I always struggle with what to leave out…so the things below this line our things that didn’t fit in the main post but I couldn’t not share.  I hope you enjoy them!

I just watched this fun video podcast (is that a thing?) of Tripp Fuller interviewing Tom Oord regarding the question, “Why go Wesleyan?” There’s a lot of great stuff in here about what it means to be Wesleyan, but I’ve linked it to the section where they’er talking about the Wesleyan Quadrilateral

Also, as an added bonus for parents (and/or teachers, pastors, youth group leaders, basically anyone with religious authority who influences kids and teens and adults), I’m getting on a soapbox and talking to you, right here: If you provide a safe space for your kids to question theology and authority when they’re younger I’m convinced that you can provide a safe place for them to do this as their doubts and questions get bigger and I’m also convinced this will make it more likely that they’ll learn to walk through these refining seasons with their faith in tact on the other side.  But when they’re afraid that you’re going to freak out on them if they ask questions they’ll either stuff it until they explode or find somewhere else they feel safe to process…but it might not be a good place. My advice?  Be honest about your doubts and questions and engage in theirs without freaking out…it’s good for both of you.  This comes not from my years of parenting experience (my daughter is only six) but from my years of working with high school and college students.

*heresy =wrong theology

Theology of the Head & Theology of the Heart


Sometimes there is a difference between what you know (in your head) and what you believe (in your heart).  It’s difficult to live a life of integrity when what you know and believe don’t line up.  If you let it, studying theology can be a purely intellectual activity that doesn’t affect any other area of your life.  BUT it can also be a powerful, life-changing activity that affects every area of your life.  Studying theology, with the Holy Spirit as your constant companion, can correct faulty beliefs at both the head and the heart level, bringing the them into alignment with each other and into alignment with truth in a way that transforms how you see and interact with God, yourself, and others.

I have always known that God is a God of love.  For God so loved the world, etc. I could recite the verses, sing the songs, speak the truth.  But for a long time, I lived like he was a God of anger, disappointment, and disapproval.  It was a combination of having a faulty definition of love (believing love was simply a choice that need not involve emotion) and of my heart believing I had a heavenly father who simply tolerated me (I’ve since come to understand some of where this false belief about God came from but that’s fodder for another post).  I could say  the right thing, God is Love, because I knew the truth, but I more deeply believed the lie that God was tolerating me, always on the edge of disappointment, waiting for me to fail.

The theology (my beliefs about God and his beliefs about me) of my head and my heart didn’t line up and I was unaware until a friend of mine asked some probing questions that challenged me to explore what I most deeply believed.  This process brought to light a belief system that ran much deeper and held much more power over my life than the facts I knew and could recite. Her questions and the Holy Spirit’s illumination* helped me to begin to unearth and correct my theology at the heart level.

It turns out that our heads are a very important part of retraining our hearts.  When the lies I’d believed were brought to light I was able to intentionally reject them and replace them with the truth I knew in my head (from studying Scripture, studying theology, and walking with God) until the two were brought into alignment with each other.  Rarely has this been a simple or painless process but it has always been freeing and fruitful.

My prayer, as you journey with me through systematic theology is that both your head and heart will be challenged with the truth of who God is, who you are, and how he wants you to interact with him, yourself, others, and the world.  I pray that faulty knowledge will be revealed, that faulty beliefs will be revealed, and that you’ll have the courage to bring your head and heart in alignment with the truth God reveals in Scripture.

Theological Vocabulary
(please let me know what words I use that don’t make sense or aren’t common so I can provide a simple definition here for you)
– Illumination: bringing light to, revealing

You’re a Theologian


We all have a unique way of looking at the world that is shaped by our culture, experiences, and whatever else we put in our brains. Your worldview shapes (and is shaped by) your understanding of who God is, who you are, and how those things relate.

If you believe God is good and wants to be in relationship with you, you’ll act differently than if you think he doesn’t exist or that he exists but hates you.  If you believe that God created the world, and people in general (and you specifically), with a purpose it will affect how you view your days.  If you believe God is angry at you and waiting for you to mess up, you’ll carry anxiety about your “performance” and probably be a bit critical of others.  If you believe that sinning will cause you to loose your salvation, then you’re likely either have a strict list of rules and work really hard not to do anything wrong, ever, …or give up and live like the failure that you know you are.  If you believe God created men and women equal in essence but with distinct roles you may be tempted to step back from a leadership role you feel called and equipped to fill.  Our beliefs, how we speak about God (and ourselves and the world), have life-altering, world-changing consequences.

The word Theology comes from two Greek words: theos, which means “God” and logos which means “word, matter, or the study of.”  Theology, then, is words about, or the study of, God (and the things he talks about). Everyone has ideas about who God is, who they are, and how those things relate even if they aren’t always aware of their believes or haven’t evaluated them to determine if they are the beliefs they want to have.

Everyone who thinks about God or talks about God (or humans, or the world, or why bad things happen, or how to deal with pain, or what to eat, or…) is a theologian at some level. Examining your theology might be a new thing for you or you might be well on your journey and decide you want to join us for this leg of it but no matter where you are on the journey you have theology and you are a theologian.

Your life and your voice matter.  And the theology that informs what you say and how you act matters.  Wine and Milk is your invitation to discover and evaluate your beliefs.  It’s your invitation to ask, “What do I believe?” “Do I like what I believe?” “Is it true?” “What does the Bible say?” “What do others believe?” Wine and Milk is your invitation to become a better theologian with life-altering and world-changing consequences.

Every week, sometimes twice a week, I’ll post about a different aspect of theology (but I’ll begin with a few preliminary “about theology” posts, like this one).  Though my theology is distinctly Wesleyan-Arminian, I have more experience teaching at Baptist and Reformed schools and have an affinity for both traditional liturgy and bold movements of the Holy Spirit.  So, while we’ll be following the Wesleyan Church’s Articles of Religion, and our conversations will have a distinct Wesleyan flair, I’ll be very intentional to make this a safe space for everyone to be part of the conversation.  I invite and encourage honest questions, reserve the right to ignore or delete trolls and rabbit trails, and will respect honor those with differing views.